“Become a possibilitarian. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see possibilities – for they’re always there.” ~ Norman Vincent Peale
Consider Mozart’s duet from The Marriage of Figaro, a piece that lifted the prisoners spirits high over prison walls in the film, The Shawshank Redemption.
“I have no idea to this day what those two Italian ladies were singing about. Truth is, I don’t want to know. Some things are best left unsaid. I like to think they were singing about something so beautiful it can’t be expressed in words, and makes your heart ache because of it. I tell you those voices soared higher and farther than anybody in a gray place dares to dream. It was like some beautiful bird flapped into our drab little cage and made those walls dissolve away. And for the briefest of moments, every last man at Shawshank felt free.”
In this way, a vision releases us from the weight and confusion of local problems and concerns, and allows us to see more clearly. A vision becomes a framework for possibility.
Possibility, defined: capable of happening; capacity for favorable development; potential.
How many times in life do we find ourselves looking for something to hold on to that gives us safety and a path to travel? The truth is: you can be/do/have near anything you desire. There are infinite possibilities to anything and the only thing holding you back is yourself. Yes, you are your biggest obstacle. We tend to not move forward with things because we talk ourselves out of them, we fear failure too much and we are too scared to explore new possibilities.
Heads are nodding, aren’t they?
In the middle ages, when lighting a fire from scratch was an arduous process, people frequently carried about a metal box containing smoldering cinder, kept alight throughout the day with bits of kindling. This meant that a man could light a fire with ease wherever he went, because he always carried the spark.
The fact is, our universe is alive with sparks. We have at our fingertips an infinite capacity to light a spark of possibility. Passion, rather than fear, is the igniting force. Abundance, rather than scarcity, is the context. The lesson: Give yourself as a possibility to others and be ready, in turn, to catch their spark. It’s about playing together as partners in a field of light.
Being open to possibility is, in part, a transformation – a uniquely significant dance between being and becoming. So when you acknowledge transformation as a movement from being to becoming, into creating, the question then is: How might I think about this or relate to this, or how might I be about this that would give me a different picture and lead me to act in a different way? Possibility is always about the space between what’s here and what might be. Given what’s happening, what’s next? What can I create out of this? What can I learn?
This transformation is a completely different route than the one of managing relationships to avoid conflict or being in any deficit position, to the notion that you are “better.” Possibility starts with being able to be with things exactly as they are. You have whatever feeling you have in reaction to what is in front of you but you don’t get lost by adding a story to it.
Expressing possibility is as easy as consciously using these words:
- Or a phrase I love: How fascinating!
In challenging times, people often stop taking risks and making the creative leaps that give life meaning and joy. Yet, sometimes, a subtle shift in the conversation, a quiet appeal to our best natures, can make a difference between stagnating in darkness or living, appreciatively, in the sunlight.
Possibility presents with a change in attitude. Explore and live it!