“Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ~ Eleanor Roosevelt
Each of us has one life. Would you rather spend your entire life doing something you do not love just because of circumstances or are you focused on heeding that calling that you can’t stop thinking about and doing “it” to your best?
If you don’t believe in you, who else is going to? This doesn’t mean you have to be crystal clear about who you are and how you’re using your personal gifts. That will come with time and effort. But it does suggest that if you’re lacking confidence and don’t have much self-belief, you will be less likely to trust and listen to the you that you’ve created.
Self-confidence or self-belief are generally considered to be the way that you feel about your abilities, skills, behaviors and looks. Someone who has a high level of confidence may trust and be happy that they can complete tasks to a high standard, learn quickly, or appear attractive to others. Put simply, it’s having faith in yourself.
Yet many portray an image to others of complete confidence while shaking with fear on the inside. This is protection method often used by many to cover up for a lack of confidence or self-belief or other feelings about themselves that they’d rather not acknowledge or show.
As a fan of simple versus complex, I also prefer to focus on ‘possessing’ and ‘abundance’ rather than ‘lacking’ and ‘deficiency.’ If you are full of confidence and self-belief, you are more likely to feel:
- excited about new opportunities
- respected by others
- comfortable facing new challenges
- sure of yourself and what you want.
Professional Coaches can often help people learn different techniques for developing their confidence and self-belief. Coaching is designed to raise an individual’s self-image and help them create a more positive outlook of life and themselves.
If you truly believe in yourself, so will others.
To get a sense of this, try being your own motivational coach. If you notice doubts rearing their ugly heads, imagine you (the clear-headed part of you) are the coach and the anxious part of you is the person with whom you are talking.
Think what you’d say to someone you really believe in if they started showing doubts. Sit down and say those same words to yourself. So if you’re about to go into a job interview and you ‘hear yourself’ starting to express doubts, take a few moments to sit down, close your eyes, and motivate yourself:
“Look, you can do this! It’s natural to feel a little anxious, but that just confirms you care about what you’re doing! You’ve got all the relevant experience and qualifications! Now get in there and stop whining! Even if you don’t get the offer, you’re going to make me proud by giving it your best shot!
Picture the decent, friendly, straight-talking coach in your mind. They’re your unconditional ally! Is it someone you know or would like to know? Talking to yourself in these times as if you were another person (in the privacy of your mind J) can boost your confidence fast.
How strongly do you believe in you?