“Take control of your consistent emotions and begin to consciously and deliberately reshape your daily experience of life. ~Tony Robbins
Part I continued…
Similarly, without our emotions we wouldn’t be able to know when we are veering away from our wellbeing, or when we are about to do something that could cause ourselves or others suffering.
Try this quick exercise: Monitor how you are feeling and what event has happened just before that feeling. Once you have identified the feeling, you have three choices – accept that this is how it is and nothing you can do or say will change it; change your response to a more useful one or; get out of the situation. Analogous to using a GPS, these three choices are like: 1) telling your in-car navigation system – “yes I know that I am off the road to where I want to go, but that’s okay;” 2) listening to your in-car navigation system and taking the next left and right and left to get back on the desired track or; 3) asking for an alternate route from your GPS.
Equally easy, here are four steps you can take to start experiencing your emotions:
Become aware of what you are feeling. Tune into the feeling brought on by the event. Then ask, what is your emotional guidance telling you?
- Acknowledge that guidance, however unwanted the feelings or thoughts you have about yourself or others.
- Accept that your guidance system has put this matter before you to correct.
- Appreciate yourself for understanding the emotion.
Fortunately, all emotions also come with a gift attached. That is, a personal reward for heeding the messages and taking the appropriate response, even with toxic emotions and finding a useful redirecting for them. In addition to the unraveling of long withheld energy, some gifts revealed through emotional release are:
- Anger can yield Strength
- Fear often begets Wisdom/Safety
- Shame tends to render Humility
- Pain transforms into Healing
- Loneliness finds Connection
- Joy becomes Hope
As you move through the range of emotions (or actually, as they move through you) and along your journey of understanding emotions, be kind to yourself. Try to not judge yourself for what you are feeling as they pass through. Emotions aren’t just energies moving through you. They are who you are. Honor and rely on them to give you the feedback you need to channel your thoughts and attention back to the joy and peace within which you want and are intended to live.
Which brings us full circle to the Part I opening quote.