“They were seeking out the treasure of their destiny without actually wanting to live out their destiny.” ~Paulo Coelho
In between one of our (years ago) sessions, my first Life Coach emailed me. In it she remarked, “I used to be a seeker and in some ways still am one. Society teaches us that living is a linear and progressive path to getting and having; so we seek and we seek. The first half of my life was spent doing just that, but no longer. Still, I encounter seekers each day, so the message reached most of us. Are you a seeker too? If you are, what are you seeking?”
I had to dig deep to find that archived note. However, when found, I knew I wanted to share some related observations.
We live and have always lived in a world of seekers and seeking. The traditional reason for our seeking has been for something better, needed, or achieved that can make us happy. But what are we seeking and how are we seeking it?
As traditional as seeking is, it is also at the root of so much distress, dissatisfaction, and hopelessness. In our seeking we fail to see what has already been found or created. Yet we continue to seek:
Wholeness, completeness and fullness, often through relationships and the perception of love within them.
Answers to life’s questions and directions for our challenges.
- Understanding of ourselves and others, our lives, and circumstances.
- Peace and calm and the happiness they embellish.
- Abundance, including more money, more things, a bigger house, a new label, and material possessions.
Just the belief that what we seek is missing in our lives, continues us looking outside to obtain or experience it. Such seeking often lasts a lifetime, punctuated with disappointment and the sadness of what we are missing or lacking. Even when we think we finally have what we seek, our mind reminds us that there is more, and our seeking continues.
The end of our seeking comes with the realization that what we have been seeking has been and already is present or at the least, readily available. Whether it be wholeness, direction, understanding, peace or abundance; we can experience them all immediately. All that is necessary is to see, love, and enjoy what we have now. When we stop looking at the horizon, we will see the ground below us.
The irony is that through our appreciation and gratitude for the life, relationships, and opportunities here now, we open up the possibilities for more. When we stop seeking, we will find that what “we sought” was always here.