Of Course I Do

“Integrity is the essence of everything successful.” ~ R. Buckminster Fuller

How often do you pause to review the formal relationship you have with your self? Or between aspects of your self? I’m willing to venture that many of us don’t check in all that often. Why? Because we live our lives on cruise control and don’t create time to intentionally reflect on our own being and thus, our behaviors and actions. I don’t say this in an accusatory fashion; it’s more a personal observation. Feel free to disagree. 🙂

We frequently talk about, aspire to and/or act upon virtues – the positive traits or qualities deemed to be morally good and thus, valued by most of us. From my view, a cornerstone virtue is integrity, which allows us to live to our fullest potential where we can create our desired outcomes. When we are truly aligned with our life purpose, it is easy to stay committed to our goals and dreams and feel fulfilled. Living a life in integrity is a daily process that helps us accomplish this and it doesn’t end until your life does.

So how do we know if this virtue is a significant part of who we are? What does it mean to be in alignment with integrity? Philosophers have studied and spoken about this for centuries. Simply stated, a few random descriptions:

  • Integrity is sound moral and ethical principles.
  • Being in integrity is openly living those principles.
  • Integrity is more than telling the truth; it is the body and soul of dignity, compassion, honesty and all that is good.
  • Integrity is the foundation, the fabric that keeps everything together.
  • Integrity elevates and builds people, whereas a lack of integrity diminishes one’s self-worth.
  • Integrity is a means by which you create your life by being whole and complete.
  • Being out of integrity is disorder. Being out of integrity is chaos. Being out of integrity is fearful.
  • Integrity is being congruent with your thoughts, words and action – walking your talk. It is saying what you mean and doing what you say. Consistently.

There are many ways in which to strengthen or restore integrity in your life. For your consideration:

  1. Avoid situations where you’ll have a significant conflict of interest. If you’re caught in something that prevents you from making completely honest decisions, get out.
  2. Deliver on your promises. Start (or continue) building a trusting relationship with your self. Become the kind of person who knows why you do things, and doesn’t do things “just because.”
  3. Let go of at least 10 questionable shoulds, coulds, and woulds.
  4. Be the vault. When a friend trusts you with confidential information, lock those secrets away. Nothing erodes a friendship faster than a breach of trust in the secret department.
  5. Think before you act. Before opening your mouth ask yourself: 1) What do I really want? and: 2) Is what I am about to say or do going to get me closer to what I want?
  6. Let go of everything that you know is not good for you.
  7. Choose thoughts and actions based on values rather than personal gain. 

I share these thoughts not to “lecture.” Rather, my hope (and whisper) is you’ll recognize that committing to being in integrity heightens clarity about the choices you make while grounding you in confidence. In doing so, you’ll be that much closer to being a whole and complete person.

If that’s what you want.

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