“There is only one cause of unhappiness: the false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.” ~ Anthony de Mello
How many times have you felt that in order to do well in the world, you have to suffer and sacrifice? Certainly members of older generations have. This commonly held idea stems from a certain mentality, inherited from ancestors who likely experienced this as true. Yet beliefs from our own past-life experiences can also make an appearance in this lifetime. These are often the ways in which false beliefs take hold and don’t let go, even though they are no longer relevant.
What we need to do is live our own lives, in our own time, and learn what is true for us, because very few truths prove valid for all people all the time. We are not our parents, our school teachers or our bosses. Yet, all too often, we choose to live the beliefs instilled by others.
It’s not always easy to keep our minds clear of false notions, as it requires us to be clear about our beliefs. Still, there are times when these beliefs have settled deep in our unconscious minds where they simply sit unquestioned. Think about it; how many times have you hesitated to do something because a ‘voice’ from long ago said you couldn’t or never would? Someone else’s words can still have a disproportionate effect on your heart, your mind, and your reality.
Mistakenly, these beliefs act on us creating situations and relationships that we regard as fate, when they are, in fact, simply our unconscious minds manifesting in the external world. As a result, we may not even be aware that we are carrying the burden of ‘lesser’ mentality. We may wonder why we are not experiencing abundance, especially if we know we deserve it. Many of us have been there and fought that. Right?
To grow into our own selves, we need to examine the contents of our minds and hearts and get to the root of what we believe about reality. When was the last time you considered such a self-examination? In doing so, we can benefit by rooting out any remaining beliefs that tell us we must suffer and sacrifice to do well.
There are many steps you can take to dispel false beliefs and reframe what is closer to true for you. Here are three:
Shake out your belief system. Challenge your long-standing, unquestioned beliefs. Ask yourself, Where has this belief come from? What would happen if I let go of this old belief?
- Tell a new story. What’s your current story? How does it make you feel? If it doesn’t feel good, stop telling it! Tell one that makes you feel inspired and positive. You can change the story.
- Step into a new direction. Move toward and allow new experiences, new energy, and new people into your life. Let go of whatever isn’t working for you.
Sometimes, things as they seem, aren’t always true.