“Don’t try too hard to fit in; you were born to stand out.” ~ Anonymous
Doubt. The bane of self-belief. Have you ever wondered why you’re less than 100% sure of yourself?
Most of us can recall times when we’ve felt insecure about ourselves. Maybe it was questioning your ability to do something. Perhaps it was feeling self-conscious about the way you look. It doesn’t really matter how these feelings present. What’s important is that we’re aware of our thoughts and how they impact our view of ourselves. Once we remember that insecurities are a normal part of life for everyone, we may find it easier to step back from uncertainty and take a more realistic look at ourselves.
Have you ever been guilty of trying to keep up “with the Joneses?” The desire to better ourselves is a natural response that arises when we begin to compare our lives to those of other people. You’ve been there, right? It might seem, for example, that we do not have nearly as much going for us as our neighbor, best friend, or coworker. In truth, what we think we see about another person is usually what they want us to notice. They may be putting on a mask, trying to make things in their lives seem better than they are. If we were to look at their lives a little more closely, we’d likely realize that they are human, covered with warts that make them who they are.
Unfortunately, it’s often our imperfections that we look at as unattractive, when instead, we could embrace our flaws as what distinguishes us. Consider for a moment what the world would be like if our character traits were cloned and no one had insecurities. Would it be a more interesting place?
What if when we felt our uncertainties begin to surface we took a deep breath, paused to acknowledge our own gifts or talents, and in doing so – become more grounded? Rather than react and retreat, we could intentionally allow our own inner beauty shine forth.
You are special. You have much to offer. Why compromise your confidence by doubting yourself? How does sacrificing self-belief yield anything beneficial?
When you hold up a mirror to your life and weigh yourself against others, you cloud the ability to see things that make you truly unique. Giving yourself permission to appreciate and believe in what you’ve been blessed with will make you feel more secure about yourself. In turn, you’ll be able to use your gifts to the fullest. Wouldn’t that be an interesting prospect?
Or am I barking up the wrong tree?