“When you find that your life is out of alignment with your grandest idea of yourself, seek to change it.” ~ Neale Donald Walsch
Life is ever-changing. Fair statement? Most of us are experiencing the shifting sands of life transitions. And there are times when we feel lost or some things feel “off.” Yet, you are in control of your life. You are in control of your actions. You are in control of your choices.
More fair statements (in my mind): Taking charge of yourself by being accountable and accepting responsibility for your actions are hallmarks of a strong character. Living your life in alignment with your values is not always the easy course to follow. Many difficult decisions must be made as we transit life. So we periodically ask ourselves, Did or do I do the right thing?
When faced with constant change, it might be the time to embrace that everything you once valued as important may not be what you value now.
When you are in the midst of a life transition, or even when you’re not, it’s essential to take stock of your values, and then do whatever you can to align your life with your most core values. Living in harmony with those values paves the way for, if not ensures, happiness and peace of mind. Some people call this living authentically.
In my mind, the heart is what represents your values, the things that are most important to you. When other parts of our being are not aligned with our values (eg., we make a different choice or take a different path) we experience dis-harmony which can lead to feelings of frustration, confusion, or unhappiness.
It makes sense then, that the more clarity you have about your values the more rapidly you can identify why you are experiencing dis-harmony and realign yourself to feelings of happiness. Ultimately, understanding your values helps you make choices to experience congruency, success and happiness.
It is generally accepted that when you live according to your core values you are in balance. When you stray from your core values, stress can build beneath the surface. Over time, you can come back into alignment with your core values or you can rationalize them away. Or another value can overtake an existing one if followed repeatedly. (Recall yesterday’s post about affirmations.)
So here’s a simple three-step exercise:
Identify a situation where your core values were tested or challenged.
- How did you feel before you acted?
- How did you feel after you acted?
Remember, you are in control…of your actions…of your choices…of your life. Create the change needed for you to be in harmony.
You’ll appreciate yourself even more.