Being in Harmony

“When you find that your life is out of alignment with your grandest idea of yourself, seek to change it.” ~ Neale Donald Walsch

Life is ever-changing. Fair statement? Most of us are experiencing the shifting sands of life transitions. And there are times when we feel lost or some things feel “off.” Yet, you are in control of your life. You are in control of your actions. You are in control of your choices.

More fair statements (in my mind): Taking charge of yourself by being accountable and accepting responsibility for your actions are hallmarks of a strong character. Living your life in alignment with your values is not always the easy course to follow. Many difficult decisions must be made as we transit life. So we periodically ask ourselves, Did or do I do the right thing?

When faced with constant change, it might be the time to embrace that everything you once valued as important may not be what you value now.

When you are in the midst of a life transition, or even when you’re not, it’s essential to take stock of your values, and then do whatever you can to align your life with your most core values. Living in harmony with those values paves the way for, if not ensures, happiness and peace of mind. Some people call this living authentically.

In my mind, the heart is what represents your values, the things that are most important to you. When other parts of our being are not aligned with our values (eg., we make a different choice or take a different path) we experience dis-harmony which can lead to feelings of frustration, confusion, or unhappiness.

It makes sense then, that the more clarity you have about your values the more rapidly you can identify why you are experiencing dis-harmony and realign yourself to feelings of happiness. Ultimately, understanding your values helps you make choices to experience congruency, success and happiness.

It is generally accepted that when you live according to your core values you are in balance. When you stray from your core values, stress can build beneath the surface. Over time, you can come back into alignment with your core values or you can rationalize them away. Or another value can overtake an existing one if followed repeatedly. (Recall yesterday’s post about affirmations.)

So here’s a simple three-step exercise:

  1. Identify a situation where your core values were tested or challenged.
  2. How did you feel before you acted?
  3. How did you feel after you acted?

Remember, you are in control…of your actions…of your choices…of your life.  Create the change needed for you to be in harmony.

You’ll appreciate yourself even more.

17 thoughts on “Being in Harmony

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  2. A few of my favorite aphorisms about values:

    * Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony. ~ Mahatma Gandhi

    * Happiness flows from being true to yourself.

    * What lies before us, and what lies behind us, are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson or Oliver Wendell Holmes

    • So much is easily viewed/considered when we just pay a little attention. Awareness is an important early step. Thereafter, the actions one chooses make sense and are much easier to implement and sustain. Thanks for acknowledging the possibilities, Brad. 🙂

  3. Excellent post. I need to go over it again …. I liked your words, here: “When faced with constant change, it might be the time to embrace that everything you once valued as important may not be what you value now.” The word “disruption” comes to mind as I read your post, but it is not a problematic disruption. Change … positive / healthy change … threatens some folks, eh? Keep on, Eric.

    • I agree, it’s likely a ‘good’ disruption. “Threatens some folks,..” I’d have to say it stops many people in their tracks. It’s okay to let go… and move on – with values or innumerable other life facets. Thanks for your thoughtful and accurate feedback.

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