“Don’t seek happiness. If you seek it, you won’t find it, because seeking is the antithesis of happiness.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
It is said that happiness is the most common goal in people’s lives. How happy are you? I hope your answer was “depends.” That is because happiness depends on our personal view of situations, relationships, work, or things. If you change your view, you change your level of happiness.
“I will be happy when, if only, and after,” are the phrases used to preface our statements about happiness. They typify common beliefs that happiness is determined by the external and occurs mostly in the future.
The word happiness is derived from the root word “hap” which is being “fitted to suit.” Happiness is about the present; it happens or occurs now. Happiness neither yearns for the past nor waits for the future. Happiness is found in the feelings, beliefs, actions, and joy of what you are doing now.
To find happiness in the present you have to be willing to accept what and where you are. This means being grateful for the gifts, the experiences, and the opportunities of today. It also means being grateful for the frustrations, the challenges, and the disappointments. All are messages about what is working and what needs changing.
Being grateful does not mean you cannot work for more or expect bigger and better. It doesn’t mean do not set goals, look for improvements for progress, or anticipate more to come. Amazingly, being grateful is the sure way to attract more and bigger and better. Being grateful (happy) with the now actually creates space for more to come into your life.
When you choose happiness (it is a choice), you are then free to make other choices as well. Happy people choose what they do with their time, their resources, and who they allow in their lives. Unhappy people typically allow others, situations, and personal needs to make their choices for them. You can choose happiness right now with these three simple steps:
Realize that the present is just as it ought to be. Choices and steps, beliefs, and actions, have brought you to this point. Accept where you are. What are the messages in your present that are telling you what to do next?
- Be grateful for it all, for it all has significance. See it all as a gift and enjoy the sweet while learning from the sour.
- Be content. What you have is all you really need right now. Choosing happiness today opens you up for more happiness tomorrow.
One of the world’s greatest novelists, Russian writer Leo Tolstoy wisely said, “If you want to be happy, be.” Happiness is not about material things, accomplishments, or anything external. Your happiness is available to you right now, if you choose it!