“Money is like love; it kills slowly and painfully the one who withholds it, and enlivens the other who turns it on his fellow man.” ~ Kahlil Gibran
Did you finish this post title before you read it? I thought so. 🙂 That illustrates how conditioned we can be. But I digress…slightly.
Ponder, if you will, yourself surrounded by money. How do you feel about money? I invite the reflection because how we think and feel about money are two significant determinants of how much money we have and how easily we attract it.
It’s probably fair to say that most of us think of money as something we need, work for, and possess. We are taught that money is a necessary evil that we have to sacrifice to obtain and be smart about saving for the future. Thinking about money this way causes a lot of anxiety as we continually focus on how to get the money we perceive is missing and possibly scarce, yet necessary for our happiness. Nothing makes people less happy or un-healthy than thinking about and working for money.
Think about this: money comes to us and is utilized through a mindset about its value, purpose, and usefulness. Most of what we believe about money we learned from our parents and how they thought about and used money. This can be a challenging cycle of thinking to escape from, however it can be done using a more productive way of thinking and feeling about money.
First, become aware of how you now think and feel about money by finishing the following statements. Do not move to the end of the post until you complete the statements.
When I think about money and how I obtain it, I feel…
- To have more money and especially enough money, I think I have to…
- When I spend money it is usually to…
Look at the words and phrases you used to complete the statements. If the words are negative and fatalistic, the way you think about money is actually blocking it from coming to you. Your words and phrases lead to feelings of anxiety, disappointment, and frustration because your beliefs and feelings about money are grounded in fear and a view that money is scarce. Such feelings create low energy and lead to choices about getting and keeping money, rather than attracting, sharing, and exchanging it.
In part two of this post, I will offer a different way of thinking and feeling about money, including three tips to attract an abundance of money. In the meantime, consider paying attention to how money affects your wealth and health. Because in the latter case, it does!