“I am not a has-been. I am a will be.” ~ Lauren Bacall
This past weekend I competed in the Toastmasters District 23 (all of New Mexico, West Texas and the Oklahoma Panhandle) Speech Contests. My first place award was presented by Toastmasters International President, George Yen of Taiwan, who presided.
I’ve had a couple of days to reflect on what propelled me to that stage and what sustained my drive throughout the two-month, progressive contest season. While I’d like to credit skill and practice (and they were contributing factors), it was self-belief that grounded and reassured me.
So how does my confidence differ from yours? Perhaps, not at all. But I thought I’d share some self-belief qualities that you might want acknowledge in yourself, even if you don’t see or yet value them. It is said that a self-confident individual can openly talk about their fears, yet doesn’t let negative attributes hinder them from becoming the best they can be. Instead, they strive to improve their weaknesses and continue to hone their strengths. Individuals who believe in themselves stand out because they are not afraid to showcase their talents and skills. And I did.
Self-awareness helps, too. It is essential that you know yourself inside-out. Self-awareness encourages you to take the initiative to change and challenge yourself because it helps you realize you need it. Consider changing your mindset. If your mindset is full of restrictions and negative beliefs, it isn’t going to help you improve your self-belief.
I typically share three ideas, tips or techniques, related to the day’s post, for your consideration. Today there are four. 🙂
- Become an even better communicator. People with strong self-belief know how to ask for what they want and to hear advice and counsel. It is less important for them to be right than to be effective. They listen more than they speak.
- Challenge your beliefs. Examine your beliefs closely and determine if they are in line with the life you desire. If you choose, you can abandon negative beliefs about your self and as you do, realize growth in your confidence.
- Be open and attractive to others. Confident people are usually drawn to one another. They vibrate their confidence in ways that attract good things and good people to them.
- Be your own hero. Write down the attributes you admire in others (compassion, honesty, integrity, etc.). Make it a long list. The more you note the more you’ll begin to see the self-belief qualities you want to be. Begin emulating them and be prepared to enjoy the feel-good benefits of being your own hero!