“In a chronically leaking boat, energy devoted to changing vessels is more productive than energy devoted to patching leaks.” ~ Warren Buffett
The noun transition, defined: “movement, passage, or change from one position, state, subject, concept, etc., to another change.” Transitions can be periods of considerable personal and psychological growth. They can be exciting, creative, and freeing. They can also be confusing or frightening. Whatever the case, they are necessary and natural stages of our personal development.
Sometimes transitions quietly emerge, almost stealth-like. Other times you see or sense them coming. Still others strike out of the clear blue. They can be random and they can be predictable. And they happen to us at every life stage. Here are a few…
- betrayal by someone you trust
- a shocking event (fire, theft, natural disaster, etc.)
- lifestyle choices
- an affair
- spiritual growth
- a serious illness
- job loss
We all need to manage a host of events during our lives. And we need to look at how change impacts our roles, routines, and relationships to understand how a transition is affecting your life and the lives of those around you. Moving through transitions often requires focused effort to address, understand, cope with, and embrace the change.
Whether you are 30, 50, or 70, there are ways to smooth the transitions you experience. Here are five to consider:
- When a change feels most stressful, relief can often be found in finding the good that it brings. An illness, financial loss, or a broken relationship can seem like the end of the world (and yes, I’ve experienced all three), yet they also can be blessings in disguise.
- Remember that all change involves a degree of learning. If you find change particularly stressful, try to keep in mind that after this period of transformation has passed, you will be a wiser person for it.
- Remember that upheaval and confusion are not often natural parts of change. While we can anticipate certain elements that a change might bring, it is impossible to know everything that will happen in advance. Be prepared for unexpected surprises.
- Don’t feel like you have to cope with changing circumstances or the stress of making a change on your own. Talk about what’s going on for you with a friend. Sharing your feelings can give you a sense of relief while helping you find the strength to carry on.
- No matter how large or difficult a change is, you will eventually adapt to these new circumstances. Remember that regardless of how great the change, all the new that it brings will eventually weave itself into the right places in your life.
It doesn’t always need to look or feel like this. 🙂