Pleasing Perspectives?

“There is no burnt rice to a hungry person.” ~ Philippine Proverb

In this image, what is the orange’s perspective? Maybe it’s not! Life is all about how we look at it. This sounds and perhaps is, cliché.

In my coaching work, we widen the aperture to consider expanded views and we search for a larger number of things that may be possible in the future. I encourage clients to visualize panoramas when exploring; to cast their consideration nets wide.

You and I have a wide range of perspectives, including: friendship, politics, entertainment, fashion, spirituality, money, laws, history, culture, death, etc. Perspective is seen and experienced through a ‘now’ lens, yet flexibility with perspective can frame new possibilities for moving forward. When one changes their mindset, they often free themselves to step into new spaces with new perspectives.

Perspectives can be fixed or malleable. They can take the form of ideas, beliefs or opinions. They can shift views from the negative to the positive or vice versa. They might change tomorrow or they may forever stay the same. Two perspectives on life that I hold are: 1) Most people aren’t against you, they’re for themselves; and 2) Go where you are celebrated, not where you’re tolerated.

We know that how we view people affects relationship dynamics. And our behaviors and reactions are often rooted in our perspectives. Yet how we act toward others can be modified. If you are interested in altering select perspectives, here are three steps you can take:

  1. Assess what fact(s) you are unclear about or uncomfortable with and how it is impacting your life. Ask yourself, what view do I need to change? What do I want my changed perspective to be and to yield?
  2. Explore your strengths, personal gifts (skills, talents), and potential – because each of us has these qualities. Ask, how do I use these to create and align with new, desired perspectives?
  3. Discover and get clear about what you want to change. Ask, how am I prepared to effect action(s) to get me to where I want to be and; What kind of story do I want to tell a year from now about my shift in perspective(s)?

I’ll close on an amusing note. The following image, is self-explanatory. It’s a humorous example of a geographic perspective… from an Australian who has never been to the United States. Once he travels to the States and becomes a bit more familiar with what lies where, he may change his perspective. 🙂

27 thoughts on “Pleasing Perspectives?

    • Starting at the core is a good place to begin. Kudos, Michael, from your recent comments I sense that you are well along your chosen path and you are pleased with your chosen perspectives. Thank you for creating time to share your thoughts.

  1. Hi Eric
    Thanks for following. I’m a happy camper now you are joining me as I trip around by RV, plane, car and time machine to the past.
    Comments, compliments, critiques and wisecracks are most welcome.
    You have a great blog. “See” you again soon.
    Which Way Now 101 aka Carol

  2. The magic of life is really in the eye of the beholder…just like beauty. It is in the matter of perspective. Sometimes it’s difficult to get away from the old ones…specially with the masses following it, it seems “normal”, the “right” one…but that’s not always the case…

    • Quite often, Shree, the “right” one is the one aligned clearly with your core values and beliefs. “Normal,” at least in my mind, suggests living as a lemming. I like and agree with your “beholder” perspective. 🙂

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