Becoming More Connected

Three strikes and you’re out or perhaps … third time is the charm 🙂 Whatever the case, a third and final reblog of one of my own posts.

Eric Tonningsen's Awakening to Awareness

“The most basic and powerful way to connect with another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention…A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words.” ~ Rachel Naomi Remen

The value of our life, work, and relationships is the power of our connection to and with them. The question is, are we connected to them or just attached to them? The answer affects not only the value, but the energy they give to or take from us. If we are connected to them they enrich the time we give to them. If we are attached to them, they drain our energy and can leave us disappointed.

The source of our attachment is always found in the perceived needs of what is missing in our lives. We want to possess people, money, and…

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14 thoughts on “Becoming More Connected

  1. Love this and yes, there is a huge distinction between connection and attachment. It is so easy to become detached when we feel disconnected. I truly feel that the efforts I make to create connections is what I am good at (does that sound cocky?) I was often “used” for this talent (for lack of a better word) at team building dinners. I didn’t necessarily belong to some of these groups yet I was brought in anyway. At first I just went with the flow and simply enjoyed the fabulous meals and company but then I realised that I actually had a purpose to being there. It took me a few years to catch on… (D’oh!)

    • “It is so easy to become detached when we feel disconnected.” Exactly, Dale. And therein lies an essential message with the post. Bravo on your being aware (and rightfully proud) of how you intentionally create connections and how they add value. And rather than your being “used” I would proffer that people recognized and appreciated the value that you could bring to both connections and longer-term relationships. Keep on!!

      • “Used” is a tad too harsh… I like your description better! “recognized and appreciated the value that you could bring to both connections and longer-term relationships”… now how to market that without sounding like an escort! 😉

  2. Perfect timing with this post (repost), as I was just talking with someone the other day about how great it would be to move into a “tiny house” as it would force me to cut ties to so many distractions that I believe are important but are more than likely truly irrelevant and potentially even stealing away new experiences. So as you say, by disconnecting in areas in life you actually become more connected to life. 🙂

    Your posts are just perfect contemplation material for me!! Cheers!

  3. Oooh number one has been a big one for me – attaching my own meanings to situations when I really had no idea where the other person was coming from. Thankfully this is changing and I am able to view them (and myself) with more compassion and detachment. Thank you for visiting my blog, Eric – I was happy to see you! 🙂 I hope you are doing really well. Aleya

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