Doing Deep Work


“It’s all about falling in love with yourself and sharing that love with someone who appreciates you, rather than looking to compensate for a self love deficit. “ ~ Eartha Kitt



A vision quest is a rite of passage in some Native American cultures. It is usually undertaken by young males entering adulthood. Individual indigenous cultures have their own names for their rites of passage. “Vision quest” is an English umbrella term, and may not always be accurate or used by the cultures in question.

Among Native American cultures who have this type of rite, it usually consists of a series of ceremonies led by Elders. The process includes a complete fast for four days and nights, alone at a sacred site in nature which is chosen by the Elders for this purpose. Some communities have used the same sites for many generations. During this time, the young person prays and cries out to the spirits that they may have a vision, one that will help them find their purpose in life, their role in community, and how they may best serve the People.


I am not a young male entering adulthood. And a vision quest is not what I will pursue. Yet, I am acutely aware of deeper trials that I need to and am choosing to resolve for myself.

“Fate whispers to the warrior, ‘You cannot withstand the storm.” “And the warrior whispers back, ‘I am the storm.’” ~ Author unknown

Love Yourself More

There is more meaningful work for this warrior. It is time.



“Tourists don’t know where they’ve been, travelers don’t know where they’re going.” ~ Paul Theroux

As a verb, Google the word “destination” and you will find endless web sites for spas, resorts, retreat centers, honeymoon locations and exotic, far-away places. When you think “destination,” what typically comes to mind? Probably Paris, skiing the Alps, Disney World, safari, a tropical beach or perhaps a historic cultural site, among many possibilities.

What if, instead, a destination was somewhere within you? A place where you could intentionally focus on your inner self, where you could practice extreme self-care and where you could reground and renew.


When was the last time you created space in which to realign with your mind, your body and your spirit… without, as Toltec Wisdom says, the “mitote” clouding your thoughts or your visions? Nurturing our personal wellness, our wholeness, is one of those matters we too often neglect. Until we are forced.

How often have you considered anticipating things rather than having expectations? Might you find value in some alone time where you could avoid over thinking things? What if you were to break away for a bit rather than ‘following the crowd’? How often do you find yourself operating on ‘auto-pilot’ just to keep up in this demanding world?


The grand voyage given to each human being as a birthright wasn’t intended to be a rat race in which we speed, mindlessly, from one activity to the next. Our birthright is to experience life in all of its euphoria and its challenges. Experience it! But not at a disproportionate cost of overlooking one’s whole self — the physical, emotional and spiritual you.

When you consider your next ‘destination’, maybe visiting your inner landscape of personality and purpose could, as a possibility, become more audible. Maybe some inner healing and restorative work would be appreciated by your mind, body and soul. 🙂


If you’d like to more deeply explore your inner self, here are three environments in which you can reflect and renew:

  • Sedona, Arizona, USA. Sedona (pictured above) is a geological wonderland with hiking trails, remote lodges and the breathtaking Red Rock State Park. It is also well known as a spiritual and energy vortex.
  • The Camino de Santiago, Spain. Also known as The Way of St. James, hikers walk the route for non-religious reasons: travel, sport, or simply the challenge of weeks of walking in a foreign land. Many consider the experience a spiritual adventure to remove themselves from the bustle of modern life.
  • A Vision Quest is, traditionally, a rite of passage in some Native American cultures. The multi-day vision quest ceremony is one of the most universal and ancient means to find spiritual guidance and purpose. In practicing cultures, a vision quest is said to provide deep understanding of one’s life purpose.